Sister's Plight

I recently had a conversation with my younger sister, and she described to me a few events that had taken place over the weekend between her and her "friends." I use quotes because I doubt the levels of honesty, loyalty, and trust that the friendships contain. She is part of the (again, I use quotes) "popular" crowd. The people she calls her friends have been mocking, backstabbing, and demoralizing her, with, in my opinion, no other motive than to make themselves feel better.

One girl, in particular, seems to be driving this wave of dismissal towards my sister. And earlier on in our discussion, we both came to the conclusion that this girl was very insecure, and that we, in fact, felt sorry for her. She used the term fake, this girl is fake, covering up her insecurities with attacks on other people. She then went on to say that she thought all girls were fake. That she was, I was, and a whole list of all her other friends were as well. I did not receive this generalization very well. I asked her if she really thought I was, or if she was, and I listed quite a few of my own friends and asked her again if she thought they were indeed fake. The conclusion she then came to, was that she has been surrounding herself with the wrong group of people. That maybe the "popular" crowd, isn't all it's cracked up to be. That maybe she should have spent her time with a more genuine lot of people throughout high school. 

It saddens me that her friends drink at 18, that they have sex in their parents houses while they're still in high school. Not that I'm against either of the two actions themselves, but I just think they should be saved for University, when you're at least 500 miles away from your parents. It saddens me even more to think that I didn't set a good enough example of what a strong, free-thinking, unpopular and still very happy young woman should act like. 

We are very different, my sister and I, and I understand that she was never going to turn out exactly like me. But throughout high school we definitely had a higher than average fight rate, and I think that itself turned her away from trying to follow the path I did during those critical years. But I do wish I had had more talks with her like the one I had today. I wish I had told her that in two weeks, none of this drama will matter, that in two months, you'll be laughing about it, and in two years, you won't even remember it had even happened. 

I think overall, I can just give her this advice now, because I'm sure this kind of drama follows some people to college as well. I love my sister dearly, and I hope she finds the kinds of friends that she deserves.